HEALTH AND WELLNESS TOPIC 46(9)
22 POWERFUL TOOL TO TRANSFORM YOUR FEAR INTO HAPPINESS, PEACE AND INSPIRATION!
Continued from last week…
Exploring a scary possibility.
You can also journal to process fear regarding upcoming events or experiences. Similar to the automatic writing exercise, simply pour out your thoughts and fears about something that has you worried. You can also combine this exercise with Dale Carnegie‘s method and ask yourself, ?What is the worst thing that could happen?? Then put your answers in writing. For every answer, come up with a response that would help you to better handle such an outcome.
For example, if you were feeling tense about an upcoming visit to your doctor because he might give you a dire prognosis you could write, “I?m afraid that the doctor will tell me that there is nothing he can do to help me. I fear the thought of living with this illness forever – or even losing my life to it.”
Then focus on possible ways to cope with such a prognosis:
“Medical technology has come such a long way, there are probably at least a few treatments I could explore. Even if conventional medicine couldn?t help, there are alternative treatments that may work, not to mention my own determination to get well. I can handle any outcome to this visit and I?m going to hold strong to my faith and trust that all will be well.”
Exploring inner blockages.
Another great application for journaling is exploring the inner blockages to living the life of your dreams. Start by writing a brief description or bulleted list of the type of life you wish you could have. For example:
– I would like to earn $150,000 per year.
– I would love to own my own home.
– I would love to find my soul mate.
– I would love to travel once or twice a year.
– I would love to start a family within the next few years.
Then examine each of these aspirations closely and ask yourself what may be holding you back from achieving them. Devote one or more pages to each item and write about the inner and outer factors that stand between you and the things you want.
Examples:
– I don?t believe I can earn such a big salary because I don?t feel talented enough to reach that level of success. Even if I did, it would probably be hard to maintain. I?d probably have to work long hours and sacrifice my social life, which I?m not willing to do.
- · I would love to own my own home, but my credit isn?t great so it?s probably not possible for me at this time. Even if I could improve my credit score, I already have substantial debt that I would need to pay down to handle a mortgage payment.
As you explore the blockages your writing reveals, you should notice something very interesting: most often your blockages are nothing more than limiting beliefs!
For example, the salary situation described above. Is it really true that anyone who earns $150,000 or more yearly has no social life and works extra hard? Of course not. That is a limiting belief (and a common one, at that) and can be changed.
Becoming aware of these limiting beliefs is just the first step in the process; then you need to focus on transforming them into more empowering beliefs, which can be done with the use of affirmations, visualization and other tools.
Transformation Tool #22
Subconscious Programming For Automatic Fear Removal
A) Conditioned Responses
When I accompanied my dog, Kolby, to training classes the first thing we were taught was to associate a clicker with a treat. I would press my thumb on the clicker, it would create a clicking sound, and I would give Kolby a piece of turkey.
It wasn‘t long before the sound of the clicker got his attention.
Then I learned to practice saying his name, hitting the clicker, and giving the treat. Within minutes he learned to associate hearing his name with something good. After that it was only a matter practice before we had him doing any number of things (see here for an example).
If you have a dog at home and you spend some time watching you will notice that much of his day to day activity is a result of these ?Conditioned Responses? whether programmed into him purposely or not.
Pick up the leash and watch the happy dance, head towards the food bag and see him salivate. And give him ?the look? and watch his eyes go down as he recognizes, by your action, that he has down something wrong.
Dogs aren‘t the only ones who react to the world using a series of Conditioned Responses. Though mostly by accident and for the most part unconscious, the way we humans react to the world around us is dictated in a large part by a series of Conditioned Responses we have been learning since early childhood.
The love and warmth you feel inside when you smell cookies baking is a result of what you learned in Grandma‘s kitchen. The tightness in your gut and shoulders before watching your team‘s football match – learned from your coach or your father as a child.
Conditioned responses are instilled either gently, with repetition over time, or as a result of one traumatic experience. And the traumatic experience doesn‘t necessarily have to be real. Sometimes a really scary movie can instil a fear of the dark in someone just as being attacked one time as you walk down a dark street can.
The great news is that once you have a general understanding of the Conditioned Response it becomes possible to consciously condition new ones. And you can condition these responses with a trigger that you can set off whenever you want to elicit the response. With the dog we used the clicker as a trigger. Every time he hears the clicker he becomes focused and pleased with himself. After a short time just hearing the clicker makes him a happy dog, even if he doesn‘t receive the turkey, his body responds as if it has.
For us humans I suppose we can use a clicker as a trigger if we want, but it‘s not necessary. A certain touch would work, as would a word or even a smell. Whatever it is, it shouldn‘t be something that you experience often (in the Free From Fear program we use a specific finger placement along with a pleasant self created sound).
Once the trigger is chosen, you can then program it to set off a specific response. Let‘s say you want to feel confident on command (useful as you head into that job interview). For this example you want the trigger to be something casual that you can set off in front of others, so it becomes your thumb pressing briefly into the inside of your elbow.
Then, whenever you are feeling confident, you press down on the trigger point. This essentially programs the feeling of confidence into the action of the trigger. Once programmed it then just becomes a matter of setting it off whenever you are looking to feel more confident.
Don‘t want to wait until you are feeling confident to program the trigger? There are a number of techniques you can use to create any number of feeling states. In the Feel Good Trigger a combination of brainwave entrainment and visualization techniques are used to generate a positive feeling state, which is then programmed into the trigger.
In this audio in the Brave Heart System we continue the use of sophisticated BWE technology to further train your brain to produce better brain and body chemicals on a regular basis.
In addition to the BWE technology you will be guided through a proven process that installs a ‘feel good’ trigger that you can use anytime you wish to reduce fear and anxiety while promoting a balanced and peaceful mindset.
BBB))) Hypnosis
Hypnotherapy is an application of hypnosis for therapeutic benefits. It can be used in areas such as medicine, sport, and for development of a person‘s well-being. It is no surprise to discover the diversity of problems from which people suffer. Two people with the same problem can easily have different reasons for creating that problem, and different motivations for giving it up. We’ve found that by far the best approach is to treat everyone as individuals.
The reason we say that people “create” their problem is because the only world that really exists, is the one we create within our own minds. However, since we are creatures of habit, and regularly hard wire our nervous system to perform specific acts, emotions and behaviors, it becomes easier to understand how people believe that the problem is not only outside of them, but outside of their control. When Patients come for a hypnotherapy consultation, it is always helpful to explain to them the way in which the brain takes in, filters and represents information to consistently produce specific states. An underpinning knowledge of the NLP communication model is particularly helpful for explaining this process within the mind.
Hypnosis enables your mind to focus concentration, producing a state of deep relaxation. Throughout this process, your mind is more open to suggestion, allowing you to make changes in your perception and behavior, for the benefit of your health. Using your imagination is a mild form of self- hypnosis. This tells us that trance is a perfectly natural and normal phenomenon. During hypnotherapy the trance is aided by your focus on the hypnotherapist’s voice. When you focus in this way you are able to ignore, if you want to, the great deal of other distractions that may be around you .Whilst in hypnosis you are neither fully awake nor fully asleep. However deeply you may go into hypnosis, you will remain in control of the situation and will continue to receive important sensory data.
For more information visit:
http://www.freefromfear.com/people
Just released as part of the Brave Heart System is the special hypnosis audio called Accepting Happiness by Gemma Bailey.
Accepting Happiness is a hypnotic route to reprogramming you mind into noticing more of what there is for you to already be happy about in your life. In accepting the happiness you already have, you are working universal law – like attracts like- and therefore you are sending out a clear signal to both your mind an environment that you want and are ready to receive even more happiness.
You get more of what you focus on so in focusing on happiness, you instantly draw more happiness to you.
Gemma has kindly made the following hypnosis script available to all readers –
Metaphor for ignoring phobias
There once was a keen gardener who tended to a beautiful rose garden not too far from here. He grew the most beautiful romantic roses you could ever imagine. Every color of the rainbow, strong with petals as soft as luxury velvet and a strong, sweet perfumed aroma that would overwhelm you as you walked past the garden.
The roses were precious, like memories, they had been planted for significant times or events, each one had a different story, some happy, some sad, some for those he had loved, some for those he had lost. And he came to the garden, every day to take care of these memories which gave him a sense of peace and love, as well as being the one place in the world where he could come to relax and escape from the challenging and demanding world.
One day, the diligent gardener was trimming the dead flower from one of his most beautifully colored rose bushes, you know the color I mean, and as he did so, a thorn broke from the plant and entered his thumb, the man swore and cursed and although the wound was bleeding he was unable to remove the thorn from inside his thumb. He went home that night and bathed his thumb in warm water and bicarbonate of soda, but still the thorn would not budge.
Eventually his wife told him to leave it. She said ?your body is an intelligent organism. It will always expel the things it no longer requires and you do not need to worry about it doing that. Just relax and let it do its job. It has been doing this so many years that I‘m sure it has a better idea about what to do than you do.? So the gardener went to bed that night with the thorn from the rose still lodged in his thumb.
In the morning when the gardener had awoke, for a few moments he had forgotten about his thumb, then, when he checked it, he found that the thorn was no longer there, his body had expelled it – and with good reason and it was resting, clean in the corner of his bed.
Well you would think that to be the end of the story but in fact it is not, the gardener went back to work that morning to continue tending to the gardens as normal. Except he found himself to be extremely cautious of the thorns, which for so long had not been a bother to him. He was so anxious in fact that not only was he seeing thorns all over the place, he began to count them and certain that he could no longer abide them he removed them all.
He worked so frenziedly, he didn‘t notice the sun shining, or the beautiful smell of the flowers or the colors or even when the sky clouded and began to rain. That night he went home shattered and exhausted but certain that he had removed all the thorns from each plant.
When his wife looked at him she enquired as to what the matter was and when he told her she simply said ?this obsession will not do your health any good.?
The next day (which I think was a Thursday), the gardener returned to work, horrified to discover that every rose bush and plant had begun to re-grow its thorns. At a loss, the gardener made a conscious decision to ignore the thorns. He said to himself ?Don‘t look at the thorns, don‘t touch the thorns, I will not get cut or scratched by these thorns.?
Yet despite his thoughts and efforts the gardener became even more cut and scratched than he had ever been in all of his working life. As he sat down in despair looking down at his hands and how bad they appeared to look, a magician who had been watching the gardener for sometime came to offer some advice.
The gardener told the magician all about the thorns and how he just couldn‘t seem to get rid of the problem because the thorns kept on growing and how when he‘d said to himself in his head ?Don‘t look at the thorns, don‘t touch the thorns, I will not get cut or scratched by the thorns,? that he had become more cut and scratched than ever before.
So the magician explained that in life you get more of what you focus on and the gardener said – ?I wasn‘t focusing on the thorns, I was telling myself not to!? So the magician explained ?Don‘t look at the thorns? presupposed that there are thorns and that you can see them and touch them. ?I will not get cut or scratched by the thorns‘ presupposed that not only are there thorns, but they have the ability to cut and scratch you.?
?So what is the solution? The solution is to focus on what you do want more of – have you noticed the scent of the flowers today, or the new bud over there – just opening, or the cool breeze, or the sound of the children playing?? The gardener had not noticed any of these things.
He said ?No, I‘ve been too busy thinking about -? And at that point the magician cast a spell. He didn‘t magic away all of the thorns, he didn‘t make them invisible either the problem was still there, a natural problem, there for a good reason. What the magician did was quite simply to make the gardener focus only on the most beautiful elements of the roses, the smells, the colors, the feel of the velvety petals.
And what happened is the focus became the reality and the problems that were no longer focused on, were no longer there. So although the gardener couldn‘t make the thorns go away, he learned not to focus on them and focus instead on all of the good and wonderful things. His beliefs became his reality so now there is no pain and only love and roses.
To be continued next week…
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Hi there! This post couldn’t be written any better! Reading through this post reminds me of my previous room mate! He always kept talking about this. I will forward this post to him. Fairly certain he will have a good read. Thank you for sharing!
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