HEALTH AND WELLNESS TOPIC 40.(6)

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Let us continue with this wonderful little book: ROOT OF SUCCESS!

Chapter 6:

Let Go Of The Past

Synopsis

Only too often, individuals are so caught up in their past that they’ve little or no energy to live in the present. We need to embrace our history and then release it.

Release

So, let?s try something now. Consider something or somebody that makes you afraid, sad, or angry. For practice, pick a topic with more reserved charge.

Step One – Cognizance

The opening move is to realize that we’re not our emotions. We’re not sad; there’s sadness inside us. We’re not angry; there’s anger inside us. If we’re identified with our emotions, we can?t do anything about it. I’m a human being – I can?t alter that.

But when we recognize it’s just a feeling, and it isn?t us, we remove our investment, and we can take steps to cure it. We can behave in suited ways, instead of being manipulated by it. Take anger, for instance. Every time I acted out my wrath – by screaming and shouting – I incorrectly thought I was the anger, and did what it told me to do.

Step Two – Loosen Up Into the Raw Emotion

Scan for sensations in your body. Ask yourself – where is it situated? What does it feel like? For most individuals, the feelings are heaviest in the face, neck, and chest. My dread feels like nausea, a frigidity and clamminess in my skin. Sorrow feels like„softness? in my face. Anger invokes heat and „stiffness?.

Gently put your attention on that, and then just start to relax into it. Breathe slowly and purposely. Just like with physical pain, our body frequently reacts by stiffening up in an effort to block these sensations. Continue reminding yourself to loosen up your muscles and just feel the emotions, letting them wash through. The more we defy the pain, the longer it takes.

Step Three – Getting Around the Mind

Attempt not to go into the mind, your thoughts, or your story about your feelings. They fertilize the pain. If we indulge in them, we may be doing the opposite of mending the pain – we may in fact be rejoicing in it. When your stories or thoughts come up, let them pass without centering on them, and gently direct your attention back to the raw sensation.

This is a really natural inclination – in fact we have been doing it for most of our lives – so don’t detest yourself for it. Even now, I still tend to get caught up in my tale. How dare she do that to me? How dare he state that? Occasionally I’d relive the memory without aim, or drift off into revenge illusions. How can this be curative? It just made matters tougher.

Above all, believing our mind can lead to injurious behavior. Occasionally our bodies want to behave in certain manners – crying, or curling up in a ball. That?s ok. But often our stories will tell us to try revenge, to hurt ourselves or others. Please don’t – remember that safety and respect for all, including yourself, is crucial. Softly bring your attention back to the raw emotion.

First, pick up a little object, like a pen, and hold it as tightly as you can. It begins to hurt after a while, doesn’t it? How do we let go of it?

We simply loosen up the muscles in our hand, and as we do so, the pen comes out of our grip by itself. We don?t have to do anything, we just have to loosen up and let go. It’s the same with our painful emotions.

Releasing

In the technique, there are some releasing questions used to instruct this process. After a little of practice, we can merely let go by ourselves, but they’re a marvelous learning tool.

Merely ask yourself – Could I let this feeling go? And attempt to answer it without thinking. Yes or no, it doesn’t matter – just go with your first response. The question serves as an invitation, so very often, even with a no, the releasing still occurs.

Following, ask yourself – Would I? This is a deeper invitation. Occasionally we think we can’t let go, and yet we prefer to – we know how much it hurts. This query taps into this willingness, which can defeat any resistance.

If the response is still no, or you’re finding it hard, ask yourself Would I preferably have this feeling, or would I preferably be free?

The final question is – When? This is a further invitation to release, right now. If you’ve a broken arm, are you going to hold off until next week to visit the hospital?

Next, merely repeat the four questions till you feel it’s gone, or if you’re ready to take a break.

Intensifying Your Practice

What should you do if you’re feeling numb, blank, or hollow about a subject that isn’t cured yet? Blankness can be a defense reaction, something used to cover up something you’d sooner not feel. Maybeyou?re just so cut off from their feelings that it takes a while to connect with them again. The good news – this blankness can be released or permitted, just like the more placeable feelings. Removing this top layer will frequently allow access to the deeper notions.

You may wonder why there seems to be a perpetual amount of emotions about a apparently minor matter. You may think the technique isn’t working, or problems are really getting worse. Most of the time, this reflects a deeper matter that’s being cured.

Please use your good sense here. In the depths of a depression, facing sorrows can make you feel nauseous, and make you cry. It’s extremely rare, but possible that others may get stronger physical symptoms.

Always quit if you experience anything physical that you feel you can’t ?handle?. Don’t let this scare you off, it’s very rare and only if you have a strange amount of pain.

to be continued next week…